Decide Now To Live Your Life With Unconditional Love

This gorgeous story about love is not for the faint of heart and it is not to be missed my friends. Read it in its entirety and decide now to live your life with unconditional love. It came to me via Bob Proctor's Insight of the Day and I repeat again, sign up and receive these goodies at your front door.

Don't Hope, Friend...Decide!



While waiting to pick up a friend at the airport in Portland, Oregon, I had one of those life changing experiences that you hear other people talk about. You know, the kind that sneaks up on you unexpectedly? Well, this one occurred a mere two feet away from me!


Straining to locate my friend among the passengers deplaning through the jetway, I noticed a man coming toward me carrying two light bags. He stopped right next to me to greet his family.


First, he motioned to his youngest son (maybe six years old) as he laid down his bags. They gave each other a long, and movingly loving hug. As they separated enough to look in each other's face, I heard the father say, "It's so good to see you, son. I missed you so much!" His son smiled somewhat shyly, diverted his eyes, and replied softly, "Me too, Dad!"


Then the man stood up, gazed in the eyes of his oldest son (maybe 9 or 10) and while cupping his son's face in his hands he said, "You're already quite the young man. I love you very much Zach!" They too hugged a most loving, tender hug. His son said nothing. No reply was necessary.


While this was happening, a baby girl (perhaps one or one and a half) was squirming excitedly in her mother's arms, never once taking her little eyes off the wonderful sight of her returning father. The man said, "Hi babygirl!" as he gently took the child from her mother. He quickly kissed her face all over and then held her close to his chest while rocking her from side to side. The little girl instantly relaxed and simply laid her head on his shoulder and remained motionless in total pure contentment.


After several moments, he handed his daughter to his oldest son and declared, "I've saved the best for last!" and proceeded to give his wife the longest, most passionate kiss I ever remember seeing. He gazed into her eyes for several seconds and then silently mouthed, "I love you so much!" They stared into each other's eyes, beaming big smiles at one another, while holding both hands.

For an instant, they reminded me of newlyweds but I knew by the age of their kids that they couldn't be. I puzzled about it for a moment, then realized how totally engrossed I was in the wonderful display of unconditional love not more than an arm's length away from me. I suddenly felt uncomfortable, as if I were invading something sacred, but was amazed to hear my own voice nervously ask, "Wow! How long have you two been married?"


"Been together fourteen years total, married twelve of those," he replied without breaking his gaze from his lovely wife's face. "Well then, how long have you been away?" I asked. The man finally looked at me, still beaming his joyous smile and told me, "Two whole days!"


Two days?! I was stunned! I was certain by the intensity of the greeting I just witnessed that he'd been gone for at least several weeks, if not months, and I know my expression betrayed me. So I said almost offhandedly, hoping to end my intrusion with some semblance of grace (and to get back to searching for my friend), "I hope my marriage is still that passionate after twelve years!"


The man suddenly stopped smiling. He looked me straight in the eye, and with an intensity that burned right into my soul, he told me something that left me a different person. He told me, "Don't hope friend...decide." Then he flashed me his wonderful smile again, shook my hand and said, "God bless!" With that, he and his family turned and energetically strode away together.


I was still watching that exceptional man and his special family walk just out of sight when my friend came up to me and asked, "What'cha looking at?" Without hesitating, and with a curious sense of certainty, I replied, "My future!"


Michael D. Hargrove


© Copyright 1997 by Michael D. Hargrove. All rights reserved. Used with author's permission. Visit Michael's website at: http://www.bluinc.com/

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Find The Courage to Say "No"

"We need to find the courage to say 'NO' to the things and people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity."



Barbara De Angelis

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Start An Attitude Inventory and Make Your New Year Successful

I can find no simpler yet profound action for the new year than this attitude inventory from Michael Josephson that came to me via Bob Proctor's Insight of the day.

How to Make the New Year Successful and Fulfilling: Start With an Attitude Inventory


It's a wise custom to end an old year and begin a new one with serious self-reflection. What did you learn this year that could improve your life and make you a wiser and better person?

If you want to have a successful and fulfilling New year, start by examining the way you think and feel about your job, your relationships, and yourself. After all, the single most important factor in personal happiness and your impact on others is your attitude.

In the geometry of life, the axiom is "positive attitudes produce positive results." They make success more likely, failures less harmful, pleasures more frequent, and pain more bearable. Some people tend to bring warm sunshine wherever they go; others bring cold chills. What do you bring?

To find out where you can improve, take an inventory of your predispositions, the attitude you're most likely to start with:

Are you generally optimistic or pessimistic?

Do you tend to assume the best or expect the worst of people?

Is your first instinct to be empathetic or judgmental?

Is your first instinct to be supportive or critical?

Do you send the message that you enjoy life or that you're barely enduring it?

Do you come across as the captain of your own ship or simply a passenger?

Wherever you are on the positive-attitude spectrum, think how much better things could be if you were more consistently and self-consciously optimistic, empathetic, supportive, grateful, enthusiastic, hopeful, and cheerful.

So why not resolve to think, act, and speak more positively about yourself, your family, your coworkers, and everyone else in your life?

This is Michael Josephson reminding you that character counts.
Michael Josephson (charactercounts.org)

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FOOD FOR THOUGHT - Choose To Change Your Mind

It is time to Be The Change people. It starts with me, how about you.

I had a startling realisation just now about all that lovely money that I thought I always wanted to make and it surprised me.

I thought for the past fifteen years that I had to make it i.e. become stinking rich as the saying goes and it is only in this past two weeks I realise that 1) that adjective "stinking" is very negative, 2) I love feeling wealthy because money has no smell, and 3) I had it, I lost it and thought I had to keep striving again to get it back.

Yet this word "striving" also connotates negativity. Plus I kept feeling irritated whenever I would receive mail about making more money only to realise today that I find such feelings connected about all this marketing strategies very tiring.

So what does that signify for the wealthy lifestyle I no longer enjoy and want to experience again? I have no idea but I feel relieved and nervous at the same time At the same timeit is a great way to begin 2012 by figuring out what I really do want in my life.

On the heels of that aha! moment came the following quote from A Course In Miracles which I find very apt indeed. Check out the hardcover edition on Amazon.

"Seek not to change the world, but choose to change your mind about the world. What you see reflects your thinking. And your thinking but reflects your choice of what you want to see."

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I AM in Control of My Life and My Emotions

2011 was very difficult for me and I suspect many others as well. When I thought it could not get worse it did and so, I could no longer ignore the elephant in the room.

Have a gander at this from the great Napoleon Hill. When I saw it I knew it was the perfect first post for 2012 and aligns perfectly with my new motto - No More Drama - in other words, don't even pick it up!

Print copies and put it on notice boards, in your handbag, wallet, on smart phone, dashboard and tablet and read it every day.

You can’t control others’ acts, but you can control your reaction to their acts, and that is what counts most to you.

No one can make you feel any negative emotion — fear, anger, or inferiority — without your express permission.

There will always be people who find perverse enjoyment in upsetting others, or who simply play upon your emotions so that they can use you for their own selfish purposes. Whether or not they are successful depends entirely upon you and how you react to their negative behaviors.

When you are forced to deal with such people, recognize from the outset that they are trying to upset you, not because of something you may have done to them, but because of some problem they have with themselves. Tell yourself, “This isn’t about me. I will not allow this person to upset me. I am in control of my emotions and my life.”

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When Presence is Gone and You're Lost in Your Mind

A thought for today from Eckhart Tolle as a reminder of how easily we become lost in our minds and forget our "Self".

Sometimes a thought has a magnetic pull, as if it wants more of your consciousness. It wants to grow, because it's a little entity. It wants attention and it tries to get it in subtle ways. It might even use a bodily feeling. "I'm hungry suddenly." Then presence is gone, and you're gone, looking for a restaurant in your mind...

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Take A Leap of Faith and Never Look Back - There's Nothing Worth Seeing

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A Lucid Dream

I had a flash of insight during a lucid dream one night after watching the movie Inception.

In the dream, I was sitting on a sparkling white horse - my totem animal in real life - in the midst of a muddy, tumbling, raging river infested with crocodiles and it's at that point that my lucid dreaming started. In other words I "woke up".

My trusty steed crushed the head of the nearest monster croc and that made the others glide away in fear. We then  leapt up onto a ledge of ruined houses of out harms way.

My Vantage Point

I was so glad to be safe from my vantage point up above because when I looked down below at the raging river waters and monsters, I was stumped for what to do next. There was nowhere to go from the ledge except across a yawning, bottomless-seeming depth in front of me.

How the hell was I going to get over there? It seemed uncrossable from the ruins where we stood but I had to get over there, somehow.

My Leap of Faith

I had to take that leap of faith because I had no other choice. I could not stay stuck up there. It looked impossible and I had no wings, so I let go and allowed my horse to take charge.

He (his name is private) leapt into the air and I, like the coward I am, closed my eyes and held on. The ride seemed to take an awful long time so I had to open my eyes to see.  We were in mid-air and my horse had grown wings on its hooves; now how fly is that!

My flash of Insight

                     Image by uwelino After we gently landed on the other side on a green and flowering hillside with a modern metropolis down below (dreams are quite elastic eh), I tried turning around to look behind me but I could not.

It was as if all I had left behind (my past) was unimportant, gone. It had no shape, smell or substance. It seemed to have become illusory.

Sure, I could imagine what was back there because I had lived it and I could add on a lot more crapola and really turn the screw on myself as all we masochistic humans do but it would still only be in my head.

The fact was that my particular trials had ended - I left it behind by taking that leap of faith - and looking back served no purpose at all. It was a waste of time.

What do you think? Have you had dreams like this or insights which really "woke" you up? Do tell.

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Satisfying My Real Hunger for Solace - Silence, Music, Breathwork and Nature

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I had another epiphany this morning then ended up listening to a channelled meditation and interestingly enough, it was about abundance.

My emotional disarray

When I feel I am in an emotional disarray as I call it, I eat more than I normally do then beat myself up saying shite like I should stop spending money on food I do not need and cannot afford to waste cash like that.

Now, I normally eat once or twice a day (and don't get any ideas that I'm slim and trim - I'm not - my body is just not as fat as it used to be) so when I find myself eating three meals a day it is too much for me and it makes me feel heavier than my extra nine kilos (20 pounds) - that bugs the hell out of me.

Of course, the emotional eating is always linked to my unfulfilled desires, frustration and low funds. It all spells lack of abundance thinking and results in a low cash flow. That is a significant aha! moment right there people!

Excess eating cannot fill the void

Another aha! moment occurred when I realised that I believed that it was because of my lack of cash that I should not be spending i.e. wasting money on food I do not need being fully aware that the excess eating could not fill the void (hunger) that I felt.

I never saw until that moment that my emotional eating and low cash flow always occurred together. Better said would be my fuckuptedness makes me look at the money I have and think it is not enough and as you know, when a thought like that takes hold it results in exactly what you believe to be true!

Only silence, sometimes music and breathing in and out while surrounded by nature stills the noise and satisfies my hunger for solace. That is when I understand the damage I am doing to myself and it stop. Nice eh.

Poverty consciousness

Like most adults, I inherited my poverty consciousness and fear of not having enough money to take care of myself from my mother and those around her because of course, she attracted people with the same vibrational energy as her own.

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I have been battling this disturbing feeling for years because I knew it was not normal for me until I understood one day that I needed to grasp the "why" of it in order to untangle myself from its coils because any thing you fight usually wins. Please remember this.

I began the process - can't say when exactly - and it is a work in progress. This is the latest piece of the puzzle.

It is not about the money!

Anyway, this piece slotted itself into place when I realised with great shock that the money I was spending on  meals - always healthy which is a huge change for me - was never the issue. How the hell could I have missed that... but I did.

I know this may seem obvious to some but when you are living it you do not see the trees anymore because you are in the forest and thus the self-flagellation continues.

Anyway, my favourite 'Professor' Bob Proctor said in one of his books, it is not about the money and he was right; it has never been about the money.

Money is only incidental to what I am living now. The issue is lack of abundance thinking which results in no money.

The sticky maze

I have been suffering the fires of the damned because I hate feeling that my life is out of control, that what I want is unattainable and I cannot seem to find my way out of this sticky maze.

Either I decide to allow my vibrational escrow to manifest itself or I live paycheck to paycheck continually underpaid due to the economic climate. In other words, I need the job but I got to be me, real as real can be an most people do not like or appreciate that but what the hell.

Since this is so glaring, how come I did not see it till this morning. I guess I was ready...

Enough with the sturm und drang

After living through two nights of stinging wasp attacks (in dreams) and a mosquito invasion under the covers (not a bite next morning) and sweating bullets like a horse on wonderfully cool nights, it was time to stop the crap. I let go.

You have to take a step back, be honest with yourself and observe instead of participating in the constant sturm und drang (storm and stress) that we inflict upon ourselves.

And that is how I ended up taking some quiet time out with some trees at my back and listening to some wonderful channelled music.

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Empower Yourself - Make Changes in Your Life That You Desire

         Soul flower by AlicePopkorn My thought for the day for a fabulous start to the week is about your soul's desires - stop ignoring the urge to change! Yes, it is scary, terrifying even but it is more powerful than you or I.

I think this new decade is all about following that urge that we have been stifling for decade and let it take charge. You already know what you want and thought it may seem easier said than done, that is just our left brain, logical self talking with the ego hard-wired in to keep us safe and thus make no changes.

Ignore it - empower youself and take charge of your life today!

We can feel purposeful and empowered when we become clear about our life's direction. Any dissatisfaction we feel about our lives can express itself as irritability or restlessness. If we can take time to explore these feelings and identify their underlying case, we can begin making different choices to improve our circumstances.

We begin to feel empowered because we have a purpose and our restlessness disappears. Explore any uncomfortable feelings you have today, and you can empower yourself to make the changes in your life that you desire. DailyOM

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Let Your Desire for Feeling Good Be Your Guiding Light

I woke feeling disturbed this morning. My new neighbour is a creep. But after my meditation and a fab Tibetan yoga session - it was hard because I haven't done it in months - I felt great because I am alive. I AM and that cancels the negativity and reinforces my positive energy. So this day I want to share my thought for today from Abraham-Hicks today...

Be easy about it. Don't rush into things. Savor them more. Make more plans and be more deliberate and specific about the plans that you are making; and in all that you do, let your dominant intent be to find that which pleasures you as you imagine it.

Let your desire for pleasure — your desire for feeling good — be your only guiding light. As you seek those thoughts that feel good, you will always be in vibrational harmony with the Energy that is your Source. And, under those conditions, only good can come to you; and only good can come from you.

--- Abraham

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Tune Into Your Intuitive Wisdom and Release Irrational Fears

By tuning into our intuitive wisdom, we can release irrational fears and take greater control over our lives. The source of our feelings can often be vague, which can leave us feeling uncertain about our choices.

If we simply take the time to get connected with our intuition, we gain a better understanding of ourselves and our emotions. If we discover that our fears are justified, we can use that knowledge to make wiser choices for ourselves, and if we discover that our feelings are caused by irrational fears, we can work through them and release them.

The end result is that we feel much more in control of our emotions and our lives. By seeking a greater understanding of your emotions today, you will gain the freedom of confidence in every interaction. DailyOm

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Baby Steps on the Road to a New Life

Living on the streets is definitely not living and that is where I ended up after being kicked out of the so-called family house with all my worldly belongings which fit into 2 travel bags.

I would not with this on my worst enemy if I have one.

When there is no on to call and you have exhausted all avenues from imposing on first time acquaintances, contacted all the shelters in towns and elsewhere, there is nowwhere left to go but the streets.

Sitting up sleeping in the city's bus terminal and leaving just before they kick you out is pitiful. Then trudging off and about with your designer bag and Macbook which got heavier by the hour makes you question the need for such an instrument and Internet and all the other stuff.

The moment came when abandoning it, my only contact with the outside world was mandatory; I could not eat it anyway.

Drifting about town with a bag of clothing, putting on an act in a city hotel just to be able to use the washroom to freshen up and feel human felt demeaning. I was fooling no one.

Those first little sojourns made me wonder how women dealt the feminine hygiene issues and the lack of water.

Heart palpitations every night from anxiety attacks were extremely painful. That pounding in your chest custs your breath and when you try to breathe your back and left side hurt so bad you wonder if breathing is mandatory.

At first, I used to wonder what woke me from my dozing because you do not really sleep - to sleep you have to be relaxed.

The worst of my time living on the streets which excludes being protected from gang rape by a security agent in my little calm corner behind a five-star hotel, was the superhuman effort to not allow the feeling of loss and devastation and resulting tears to fall.

Because I knew that once that dam was breached, I was finished.

Using a drain as your toilet at night only, the effort to keep clean and change my underwear even without a shower, constantly roaming the environs and starting to evaluate likely spots for a rest or sleep, eyeing every stranger that passed with suspicion as darkness fell, and eye-balling the blackened and dirty vagrants and wondering when I would become like them was all part of the street life.

I had already abandoned any pretence that someone would help me. That was no one.

Hunger does not set in until days later. I discovered like to bored youngsters we often observe that you can nurse a sugary drink all day especially when it is your only meal. The absence of resources and a solid meal does not occupy your mind right away.

You are initially consumed, as I was, by the emotional fallout like a nuclear blast that destroys all that is familiar and its attendant consequences.

It is a whole new world out there where we street people do not exist and those that prey upon us have all the power.

How did I end up using a terminal in a library? My very powerful smartphone's battery was on its last leg and I guess I had a kernel of faith left because I was planning to turn it off that particular day. I had no one to call and it seemed of no use to me and then it rang.

It was my brother calling to ask after my welfare. I told him about my new home and used my last few dollars to meet him in his old jalopy that could not travel far in the next town.

He fed me my first solid meal in a long time - I did not tell him that - and for the next 2.5 months that followed until I found a poorly paid but welcome job that put food on my table and he took me to Social Services who cover my room rental.

The kindness of strangers that came to my assistance since that fateful day mean more to me that my birth family ever could. They have taught me about the kindness of strangers.

Thank you Papy James for the lounge chair and the incredible succour and support from your family.

Thank you Kenneth and his family for feeding and sheltering me during those months and the restful green of the countryside which was a balm to my heart and soul.

And finally, thanks to Amber and her brother Johnny for the on again, off again job and the room, providing me with the space to find my feet as I take the baby steps on the road to a new life.

It's all good!

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Listen To Your Body - Let It Go and Be Well Right Away

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Think about that little smear that starts out as the human body, and then there's a nose and a liver and a gizzard, oh, not a gizzard... All that stuff that is present and knows how to become this. There's so much knowledge within the human body. You're wanting to free the human body's knowledge to be well from the resistance that has been picked up along this physical trail.

The very best approach to medicine is,"Well, I see your physical body is sick, what's been bothering you? What are you worried about? What are you angry about? What are you frustrated about?"

Because that is what is at the root of all of this. And then say, "Let it go, let it go, let it go." That's the message, and if they could hear you and do that, then they would all be well right away. ~Abraham/Hicks

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TODAY's MESSAGE - Look For Positive Aspects in Others

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As you deliberately look for positive aspects in others who surround you, you will train your Vibrational propensity into increasing improved Vibrations. So it does not matter how many negative thoughts you have thought before, or how long you have been negatively focused.

You can deliberately focus—right now—on an improved thought. ~Abraham-Hicks

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Affirmation For Being Your Authentic Self

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Theo Affirmation for being your authentic self: 
I am whole, healthy, functioning perfectly in alignment to my soul and open and receptive to that alignment now. From AskTheo Live Radio Show

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